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Word Wednesday is back! I’ve Never Liked the Word “Submit” Until Now

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Planning a wedding in two weeks doesn’t allow much time for marital counseling.

I think we spent only thirty minutes with our pastor twenty-five years ago.

As we settled into chairs facing our silver-haired sage, he opened his Bible to Ephesians 5:22 and read,

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”

Yep, those were the first words of counseling.

Very few women (if they are honest) love reading that verse. We kind of cringe, don’t we? It is love that makes the command tolerable, even do-able, but let’s face it. . . that word “submit” carries negative connotations. Even so, I don’t think I batted an eye. I probably would’ve married Mike Lee if the pastor told me to kiss my husband’s feet every night–I was a lost cause in love.

Thankfully, no foot kissing was commanded (his soldier feet were disgusting when we got married), and our pastor didn’t stop his counseling with one verse, but he continued to read this famous passage:

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy. . . .”

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I remember how Pastor Joe stressed to my fiance’ how important his role of loving and taking care of me was in this relationship. Wives were to submit, but husbands were called to love their wives sacrificially. Transforming-ly. It almost seems impossible for men just as that word “submit” doesn’t sit well in our women spirits.

(Disclaimer: Just because something doesn’t sit well or it seems impossible doesn’t mean it’s not correct.)

But when something doesn’t sit well in my spirit, I start studying because I’ve found that God’s Word does not condemn or oppress. His Word brings healing, freedom, and empowerment.

The Greek word translated as “submit” is Hypotasso which means exactly what we thought. . . to submit.

But

At the very end of the definition in my Key Word Study Bible were the words, “dependent position.”

Automatically I added this knowledge to Ephesians 5:22-24. “Wives depend on your husbands as you depend on the Lord. . . .Now as the church submits to and depends on Christ, so also wives should submit to and depend on their husbands in everything.”

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Even though I never liked the verse about wives submitting to their husbands kind of like I never really liked the Proverbs 31 woman, I’ve always believed there was blessing for “submitting” when I didn’t agree with my man. And I’ve experienced God’s blessings.

But simply knowing that this “submit” word is not only about position or authority but responsibility softens my heart’s response to Paul’s command, and this sits well with my soul. I no longer cringe when I read this command.

It sweetens my relationship with my husband, but it also reminds me of what it really means to submit to Christ–or rather to depend on Him in everything.

Your turn. What do you think? Does this extended definition to “depend”soften the word and help you “submit” or do you disagree with my new “translation”? Leave a comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts. 

 

Also, are there any scriptures you struggle with that you’d like me to write a Word Wednesday post on?

 

Thanks for stopping by!

Jesus Loves you,

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9 thoughts on “Word Wednesday is back! I’ve Never Liked the Word “Submit” Until Now

  1. Love the wedding photo! Good word on submission and depending on God and on our husbands. I think if they knew we were truly depending on them with all our hearts (submitting to them and respecting them) it would inspire and encourage them to love us as Chrsit loved the Church. As “independent, self-sufficient women” that our society encourages us to be, it’s difficult and impossible without the Spirit’s help. I, for one, am still working on it!

    1. Hi Clarice! How do I explain “hell” to a child? It probably depends on the age of the child, but I would focus on how much God loves us and wants us to always know He’s with us, living with us. Hell is a place where God isn’t present; it’s a place of pain, emptiness, nothingness, but God sent Jesus so that we can live with Him forever in peace and security and love. Is there a particular scripture?

  2. Oh, those very dear, precious wedding pictures! How poignant is the memory of those days when love required haste for a bride to be whose husband belonged to the U.S. Army whose beck and call he would have to heed! I do love the way you explained how not sitting well doesn’t eliminate validity!

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